Be Wise About Family
Excerpts from Proverbs
January 25, 2004
We live in a society, that if not in theory, at least in practice,
has devalued the family.
“America needs no words from me to see how your decision in
Roe vs. Wade has deformed a great nation. The so called right
to abortion has pitted mothers against their children and women
against men. It has portrayed the greatest of all gifts - a child –
as a competitor, an intrusion, and an inconvenience.
18:22 - “whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing”
Gen. 2:24 - “Therefore shall a man leave his father &
his mother & shall cleave to his wife:
they shall be one flesh”
Jesus said “For this cause shall a man leave father &
mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they
twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are
no more twain, but one flesh, What therefore
God had joined together, let not man put asunder”
A LIFETIME BOND
“a prudent wife is from the Lord” - ch. 19:14b
A special gift of God, a proof of His gracious care for
His servants. It is by the Lord that a man is matched
with a woman.
There is a special providence that watches over
wedlock (marriages are made in heaven) but
marriages of convenience, made in consideration
of worldly means, are an earthly arrangement and
claim no particular grace.
Opposite - Eccl. 7:26
I Kings 11:1,4 fulfilling Exodus 34:16
(look up word with play on "strange) Below: Proverbs 2:16
Historically, women have been devalued - now-
NOW (National Organization for Women) - too big for their britches.
I Cor. 11:3-12 Isaiah 3:10-11
Eccl. 9:9 Prov. 5:15-23
I Pet. 3:7 - “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them
according to knowledge, giving honor unto the
wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being
heirs together of the grace of life”
ch. 31:10 - “virtuous woman” - expression combines ideas
of moral goodness & bodily vigor & activity -
Greek word is “andreia” - Andrea - ideal woman - upright,
God-fearing, economical & wise.
Her opposite - weak, lazy and wasteful - the devil uses
women to mold & fashion men to his will.
Hand that rocks the cradle rules the world!
Few are privileged to meet with this excellent wife & her
worth cannot be estimated by costly material objects.
Contrast Job 2:4 - “all that a man hath will he give
for his life”
with Eph. 5:28-33 - esp. v. 28
ch. 12:4 - “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband” -
adorning and beautifying his life.
Stories in Kentucky Explorer - influence of the Bible
in the Bible Belt - blessings - innocence - contrasted
with the Jezebels, Madonnas, etc. today.
ch. 31:11-12 - “The heart of her husband doth safely
trust in her” ........She will do him good and not
evil all the days of her life.”
I have been married 35 years - I would not trade the
HOPE of my wife being at the door to welcome me
for a million dollars and we have debts to pay!
ch. 24:3-4 - Read - by prudence, moral uprightness,
& the fear of God, a family is supported,
blessed & maintained.
“wisdom, understanding, knowledge” - ch. 1 -
ch. 15:17 - fat beef, sumptuousness & entertainment
is of little worth with feelings of hatred, jealousy
and ill will.
There was a certain rich man, which was clothed in purple
and fine linen and “fared sumptuously every day” - Luke 16:19
ch. 20:7 - fruit - children - Ps. 127:3-5
Nowadays - children alienated from parents - Is. 3:10-11
Rebellious toward authority - “children disobedient to
their parents” (sign of last times) - “parents provoking their
children to wrath” - bringing the house down.
“A house divided against itself cannot stand” - Jesus said.
p. 78 - American History Made Simple - comparison of
church and state issues today - more and more
psychological ties to “The Lie” - Ps. 11:3-7
II Thess. 2:10-12
Kids have to have a start somewhere - home is the
place God intended - it worked in the past - it will
work if put to the test.
ch. 20:7 - The man of pure life, who religiously performs
his duty towards God & man, shall bring a blessing
on his children who follow his good example, both
during his lifetime & after his death.
Temporal promise - Exodus 20:6 - “and showing mercy
unto thousands of them that love me & keep my
Deut. 4:40 Ps. 112:2b - “the generation of the upright
shall be blessed”
ch. 13:24 - Gold must be beaten & a boy needs blows.
“chasten him betimes” - literally - early in the morning -
before evil habits have time to grow or directly
after the offense.
The chains of habit are usually to light to be felt until
they are too strong to be broken.
Danish proverb - What youth learns, age does not forget!
America Asleep at the Wheel - all can be traced to turning
the back on God and His Commandments!
ch. 23:13-14 - Save him from the doom of the rebellious
son - Deut. 21:18-21
Origin of beating the hell out of somebody?
Shall not die eternally - the Biblical formula is:
born once - die twice!
born twice - die once!
Matt. 5:28-29 - Sermon on the Mount
v. 13b - the expression means - do not be weak,
thinking that you will injure your child by
judicious correction and in this fear with-
holding your hand; but punish him firmly when
necessary, and, far from harming him, you will be
doing him the greatest good.
v. 14 - Proper discipline preserves a youth not only from
many material dangers incident to unbridled
passions, but saves him from spiritual death, the
decay & destruction of grace here, & the
retribution that awaits the sinner hereafter.
ch. 19:18 - German proverb - It is better that the
child weep than the father.
Chasten him duly and sufficiently, but not so heavy
as to occasion his death, which no parent has the
right to do. The Law told what to do with the
incorrigible (unruly - uncontrollable) child - Deut. 21:18
Reprove with gentleness, being firm & uncompromising.
ch. 29:15 - first part - bodily correction/corporal punishment
second part - discipline in words, rebuke when
any moral fault is noticed.
The verb translated “left” is used in Job 39:5 of the wild
ass left to wander free where it wills. A child allowed to do
as he likes, undisciplined - spoiled - is what it is talking about.
ch. 17:21 - “He that begetteth a fool doeth it to his sorrow:
and the father of a fool hath no joy”
ch. 22:6 - The child is to be trained from the first to go in
the right path - the path of obedience & religion.
The molding of the child’s nature, faculties, temperament,
will bear fruit all life long!